Dating👫, Love 💖

How far is too far before marriage? 

“How far is too far before marriage?” The fact that we keep asking this question suggests that we agree we need to draw some lines in our relationships. If you are pursuing marriage relationship, you are going to experience temptation — a lot of I must say. 

I have recently been studying about building godly relationships. From scriptures, a lot could be deduced. Even traditionally, some cultures seem to have godly ideologies as regards godly dating. But to be sincere, a lot of concepts about godly dating are out of sentiments and personal ideologies – although motivated from scripture too. 

Although I couldn’t find the word “Dating” or “Courtship” in the Bible, the definition we have for such terms could be infered from scripture. Hence, it worthy of being discussed.

There is a reason the Bible doesn’t have a book devoted to how to choose a spouse. It was not an oversight on the part of the God of all history, as if he couldn’t see into the 21st century. 

Sexual sin may be the devil’s weapon  in corrupting Christian relationships. If you don’t acknowledge your enemy and engage him, you’ll find yourselves wondering how you lost so easily – From personal experience. Some of our best friends in the battle will be the boundaries we set to keep us pure – both parties should be involved or it can never work. It shouldn’t be one sided I believe.

That means being like-minded is essential.

While spontaneous plunges into intimacy look great as it feels in the moment, they breed shame, regret, and distrust in the relationship.

 Let’s try talking about touching before touching. Trade some titillation for trust, surprise for clarity and confidence. Make decisions prayerfully and intentionally before diving in.

Boundaries are necessary because on the road to marriage and its consummation, the appetite for intimacy only grows as you feed it. We are biologically built that way. Touching leads to more touching. Being alone together in certain situations will welcome fierce temptation. Even praying together or talking for hours upon hours on the phone can create unhealthy overdoses of intimacy with not-yet spouses. I just heared some in ask how?

You asked quite a reasonable question. But just to point out the word “can“. That means there is a possibility. Praying together over the phone or physically, is quite a good thing to do. It’s a spiritual exercise which can only happen while we still exist in our body. It even creates a godly mindset. But too much of it might make you feel too bonded to the *not-yet-spouse* and thus graduate to *unnecessary ecstasy*.

Both factors I mentioned are with the mindset of not getting *emotionally heightened* which then clouds our rational judgement of circumstances surrounding the relationship.

Talking on phone and praying together is good but better when done at *intervals* than for long hours at a go. Night calls really used to be popular back than😀.

 

Your emotions must be in control by you.

 

Have you had this experience where you talk with a friend for a long time and totally realize you are just drunk in the conversation that you even start discussing unnecessary stuffs and say things you wouldn’t normal say?

Married

If we’re honest, we much more often like to err by wading into love too far rather than waiting too long to take the next step. As followers of Christ, we really ought to be the most careful and vigilant.

Boundaries protect, and boundaries provide the trenches of trust-building

 As we establish some mutual boundaries, small and large, and commit to keeping them together, we develop depths and patterns of trust that will serve our intimacy, covenant-keeping, and decision-making should God lead us to marry each other.

Thank you for making out time to read this. There are other insights I would love you to read as I will go on to express – in writing  about Christian Dating . Click on any of the links below 

💡Must He/She be from my Tribe? 

💡Before I Pop the Big Question 💍

💡Why Do Men Desire To Rule The Women In Marriage?

You are welcome to visit this blog anytime 💕. Remain blessed.

Advertisements

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

w

Connecting to %s